Was Nirbhaya ready for Dangal? – Special story by CrimeInDelhi On 29th December 2012, the parents lost her daughter, a brother lost a sister and many lost a friend to the evil and sick minded monsters. If this doesn’t ring a bell, let me remind you that I am talking about Nirbhaya (meaning fearless), a 23 year old physiotherapy intern. On 16th December 2016, when most of us were in our deep sleep or enjoying the night life the snakes made use of the moment and decided that their sexual need is more important than anyone’s life. You cannot teach morals to a snake. 4 years have passed by and we still continue to lose many lives to sexual assault and gang rapes.
Let’s for a moment shift our focus from 2012 to 2016. December is here again and all you game of thrones fans can proudly say that winters is here. Well it’s not that hard to admit the sarcasm but december also brings with it an Amir Khan movie. Who doesn’t love to see Mr. Perfectionist displaying his work and the amount of blood and sweat he gives for preparation of his character. The movie titled “Dangal” releases on 23rd December, a perfect Christmas gift we Indians can imagine. The songs look promising and the theme of the movie has already been somewhat clear from the trailer itself as it is based on the real life story of Mahavir Singh Phogat, a wrestler and his wrestler daughters Geeta Phogat and Babita Kumari.
म्हारी छोरियां छोरों से कम है के
Well before we take pride in the success and the new heights the girls of our country have scaled (and in no way I wish to demean their achievements) I hope that whenever you hear the name of Kalpana Chawla, Saina Nehwal, PV Sindhu and others, you speak the name Nirbhaya with the same pride and honor. She fought against the enemies of the society for her life. Unfortunately she lost the battle because she was unprepared. Though the rascals got punished and we’re not here to discuss the type of punishment they deserved, I guess hell would be such an understatement. But I ponder one should analyze how the disaster could have been averted.
Many eyebrows will be raised if I say the parents and society were responsible for the battle which Nirbhaya lost. Since then many initiatives or efforts have been made to change the mindset of the male fraternity of the country, like beti bachao, beti padhao, Men against rape and discrimination (MARD). Stop telling your daughter what to wear or how to behave, instead teach your sons to respect women first. Has this worked? Maybe, who knows? I believe the solution lies in raising the girl child
Dear Parents and the orthodox members of the society analyze this.
There’s a storm coming your way! You know for sure that the storm and the damage it’s going to do is vast and inevitable. What do you do? Do you plan a strategy to kill the storm? Will you curse the storm and hope it’ll vanish? No. You plan your way to survival. You prepare for the storm to make sure the loss is bare minimum. You analyze and ready yourself for the big task ahead. The timing of the storm is uncertain and but it’s assured and bound to happen.
Mahavir Phogat comes from a state famous for female foeticide and is the light in the shining armor when he decided to raise his daughters as wrestlers. He trains them like he used to during his time and makes them go through rigorous training sessions and enrolls them in the wrestling competition held for boys. He fought his way against the societal norms that girls place is in the kitchen and no education is important for them other than how to cook and how to make children. I admire his skepticism. Every parent in the country should take a leaf from his feathers and raise their daughter equivalent to the son.
You cannot change the path of the storm. It’s going to hit you hard. All you can do is prepare and be battle ready. That’s what we’re talking about. It’s not easy to change the mindset of the snakes and rascals of the society, but what would be better is to learn how to kick between the legs or how to duck and then swing your right arm right in the middle of the eyes. That’s pretty easy and you know why? It’s because now you’re in control. You can control the outcome of the storm your daughter’s may or may not face. The choice is always in your hands, dear parents. It’s high time you decide what the right place is for your daughter, the kitchen or the akhada.
Just remember – the kitchen isn’t going to make her ready for the Dangal.